All ego really is, is our opinions, which we take to be solid, real, and the absolute truth about how things are.
Pride goes before destruction.
The test we must set for ourselves is not to march alone but to march in such a way that others will wish to join us.
Egoist: a person of low taste, more interested in himself than me.
We cannot bear very much reality, we are biased to protect our egos against the onslaught of unwelcome truths.
The key is to ego is distinguishing between when it's serving you and when it's getting in your way.
What I've found in my research is that realism and self-honesty are the antidote to ego, hubris, and delusion.
I long to escape the prison of my ego and lose myself in you.
Humility and pride will forever battle whenever or wherever love is concerned.
One of the ego's favorite paths of resistance is to fill you with doubt.
Egotism is the source and summary of all faults and miseries.
Jealousy is the suspicion of one's own inferiority.
Amateurs focus on tearing other people down. Professionals focus on making everyone better.
The ordinary focus on looking confident and looking good. The superior focus on creating value and helping others.
Listening is difficult because it involves suppressing your ego long enough to consider what is being said before you respond.
The ego isn't a real thing, it's just the unexamined mind.
Truth above everything.
Drop ego and listen. Empathize.
Slow but steady wins the race.
When ego is in control it judges and punishes. But love forgives and heals.
An egotist is not a man who thinks too much of himself; he is a man who thinks too little of other people.
It is better to lose your pride with someone you love rather than to lose that someone you love with your useless pride.
When ego is lost, limit is lost. You become infinite, kind, beautiful.
If you want to improve, you must be content to be thought foolish and stupid.
Let us be more simple and less vain.
Silence is the respite of the confident and strong.
You're not as good as you think. You don't have it all figured out. Stay focused. Do better.
Ego is false confidence, self-respect is true confidence.
The bigger your heart, the more you love, the more you control your life. The bigger your ego, the more you're scared, the more others control your life.
Whenever I climb I am followed by a dog called 'Ego'.
Your ego screams for people to acknowledge you. But you must do nothing. Take it. Eat it until you're sick. Endure it. Quietly brush it off and work harder.
The ego seeks to divide and separate. Spirit seeks to unify and heal.
The Ego's job is to kill everything but itself.
The ultimate aim of the ego is not to see something, but to be something.
None are so empty as those who are full of themselves.
Where id was, there ego shall be.
I have never seen a greater monster or miracle than myself.
All you need to know and observe in yourself is this: Whenever you feel superior or inferior to anyone, that's the ego in you.
A man wrapped up in himself makes a very small bundle.
The gulf left by the absence of ego is quickly filled with knowledge.
To me the ego is the habitual and compulsive thought processes that go through everybody's mind continuously. External things like possessions or memories or failures or successes or achievements. Your personal history.
The ego is only an illusion, but a very influential one. Letting the ego-illusion become your identity can prevent you from knowing your true self.
Your ego is your self-image created by thought. It's your social mask requiring validation because it lives in fear of losing its sense of identity.
The foundation of the Buddha's teachings lies in compassion, and the reason for practicing the teachings is to wipe out the persistence of ego, the number-one enemy of compassion.
All a man has is pride. Sometimes you have it so much it is a sin. We have all done things for pride that we knew were impossible. We didn't care. But a man must implement his pride with intelligence and care.
Make your interests gradually wider and more impersonal, until bit by bit the walls of the ego recede, and your life becomes increasingly merged in the universal life.
Greatness comes from humble beginnings; it comes from grunt work. It means you're the least important person in the room ” until you change that with results.
Work is finding yourself alone at the track when the weather kept everyone else indoors. It's pushing through the pain and crappy first drafts and prototypes. It is ignoring whatever plaudits others are getting, and more importantly, ignoring whatever plaudits you may be getting. Because there is work to be done. Work doesn't want to be good. It is made so, despite the headwind.
Leave your ego at the door every morning, and just do some truly great work. Few things will make you feel better than a job brilliantly done.
To live in the light of a new day and an unimaginable and unpredictable future, you must become fully present to a deeper truth - not a truth from your head, but a truth from your heart; not a truth from your ego, but a truth from the highest source.
We must go beyond the constant clamor of ego, beyond the tools of logic and reason, to the still, calm place within us: the realm of the soul.
When one is without ego, one becomes infinitely free of all personal judgements, and perceives life and the world with divine eyes and mind. Nothing is offensive to them and they remain in perfect serenity and peace always.
Maybe your parents will never be impressed, maybe your girlfriend won't care. Maybe the investor won't see the numbers, maybe the audience won't clap. But we have to be able to push through. We can't let that be what motivates us.
It's not about beating the other guy. It's not about having more than the others. It's about being what you are and being as good as possible at it without succumbing to all the things that draw you away from it. It's about going where you set out to go. About accomplishing the most you're capable in what you choose. That's it. No more and no less.
Read books that challenge your beliefs and make you feel stupid. You don't get better by protecting your ego. You get better by exposing it to truth and being vulnerable. This is how you remain fluid and grow.
When you drop ego, you can have great fun because you are no longer taking anything personally. You are a detached observer which has a peculiar joy of its own. Ego is a source of great tension. Egoistic people are anxious, self-defensive and uptight. Drop the ego and chill out.
If I only had a little humility, I would be perfect.
I now know all the people worth knowing in America, and I find no intellect comparable to my own.
I don't want to see you. I don't like you. I don't like your face. You look like an insufferable egotist. You're impertinent. You're too sure of yourself. Twenty years ago I would have punched your face with the greatest of pleasure.
There's no ego when you're a ukulele player.
Egotism is the anesthetic that dulls the pain of stupidity.
Humility is born of the spirit, humiliation of the ego.
Most of us are convinced that we are our egos, which is who we think we are. The ego is part of our incarnation. It dies with the body, which is why we are so afraid of death. Death scares the hell out of who you think you are, especially if you think you are this body.
The poor ego has a still harder time of it; it has to serve three harsh masters, and it has to do its best to reconcile the claims and demands of all three... The three tyrants are the external world, the superego, and the id.
Ignorance, intolerance, egotism, self-assertion, opaque perception, dense and pitiful chuckle headedness - and an almost pathetic unconsciousness of it all, that is what I was at nineteen and twenty.
If your ego starts out, 'I am important, I am big, I am special,' you're in for some disappointments when you look around at what we've discovered about the universe. No, you're not big. No, you're not. You're small in time and in space. And you have this frail vessel called the human body that's limited on Earth.
One may understand the cosmos, but never the ego; the self is more distant than any star.
The hallucination of separateness prevents one from seeing that to cherish the ego is to cherish misery. We do not realize that our so-called love and concern for the individual is simply the other face of our own fear of death or rejection.
Our ego is our silent partner - too often with a controlling interest.
That's how it seems to go: We're never happy with what we have, we want what others have too. We want to have more than everyone else.
Silence. The ability to deliberately keep yourself out of the conversation and subsist without its validation.
The voice inside your head shapes what you see, think, and feel. It protects your ego, even if that means distorting reality.
Some people's insecurity and ego fragility cannot tolerate the slightest offense.
Man is not a rational animal he is a rationalizing animal.
Leave the ego otherwise everyone will leave you.
The loudest in the room is the weakest one in the room.
Fools try to make themselves bigger. The wise try to make themselves smaller.
The ego is always looking to find something. The Spirit can see what's already there.
Let your action be free of all traces of ego. When an action is free of ego it leaves no problems in its wake.
For the ego to survive, it must make time - past and future - more important than the present moment.
The ego relies on the familiar. It is reluctant to experience the unknown, which is they very essence of life.
The Ego is not who you really are. The ego is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and it is sustained by power, because it lives in fear.
What is rare is not raw talent, skill, or even confidence, but humility, diligence, and self-awareness.
Freedom means the power to act by soul guidance, not by the compulsions of desires and habits. Obeying the ego leads to bondage; obeying the soul brings liberation.
Success is seen as proof of guilt by those with jealous minds and fragile egos.
When we constantly judge every tiny event, we lose complete perspective over the nuances and spontaneities of life.
Self-worth comes from one thing - thinking that you are worthy.
Charisma is a combination of two attributes. It's the ability to project confidence and love at the same time.
Confidence turns into pride only when you are in denial of your mistakes.
You have to try to reply to criticism with your intellect, not your ego.
Picking the glamorous choice is almost always a bad decision.
The greatest prison of all is the one our ego puts us in.
Fear of fear is the birth place of the ego, its resting place and its final destination.
Humility is, in a sense, admitting how egotistical you are.
If you never smile, you're too serious. If you never help, you're too narcissist. If you never give, you never love.
Apologizing does not always mean you are wrong, it just means that you value your relationship more than your ego.
A relationship never dies a natural death. It is always murdered by ego, attitude and ignorance.
The trouble with most of us is that we'd rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism.
Criticism is an indirect form of self-boasting.
People will come up with extraordinarily convoluted theories to avoid admitting that they have been wrong about something.
Your worst enemy is hiding within yourself, and that enemy is your nafs or false ego.
No time for reading. For controlling your arrogance, yes. For overcoming pain and pleasure, yes. For outgrowing ambition, yes.
If you are irritated by every rub, how will you be polished?
To cure jealousy is to see it for what it is, a dissatisfaction with self.
We are rarely proud when we are alone.
The spirit of arrogance most definitely makes you shine. It paints a bright red target on your own forehead.
The desire for self-development stems from narcissistic desires, a tendency to self-aggrandizement and superiority over others.
Ego trip: a journey to nowhere.
Show me someone without an ego, and I'll show you a loser.
Letting go of your ego opens the door to taking a new and creative course of action.
Identity invites confirmation bias, which neutralizes your ability to learn. Shedding identity is a prerequisite to wisdom.
It is hard to resist a flatterer who gets it right.
If every fool wore a crown, we should all be kings.
Pride was the belt you used to hold your pants up when you had no pants.
The last time I saw him he was walking down lover's lane holding his own hand.
I'm willing to admit that I may not always be right, but I am never wrong.
He that is proud eats up himself: pride is his own glass, his own trumpet, his own chronicle.
If you want to reach a state of bliss, then go beyond your ego and the internal dialogue.
Wear your learning like your watch, in a private pocket; and do not pull it out, and strike it, merely to show that you have one.
Pride costs us more than hunger, thirst, and cold.
Ignorance and power and pride are a deadly mixture, you know.
Complaining is one of the ego's favorite strategies for strengthening itself.
Soar with wit. Conquer with dignity. Handle with care.
If you learn how to make fun of yourself, your ego will go down.
Avoid making yourself the subject of conversation.
Fools, because of fear, accumulate and consume. The wise, because of love, give and create.
Cast out pride and vanity; have no thought of trying to rule over others or of outdoing them.
Suffering has a noble purpose: the evolution of consciousness and the burning up of the ego.
Part of me suspects that I'm a loser, and the other part of me thinks I'm God Almighty.
I don't care what you think unless it is about me.
Outcomes over ego.
Most successful people are people you've never heard of. They want it that way. It keeps them sober. It helps them do their jobs.
Be lesser, do more. Imagine if for every person you met, you thought of some way to help them, something you could do for them?
The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated.
In the battle of egos, both competitors lose.
As soon as you refrain yourself you don't really love. The weak protect themselves. The strong give everything.
You have no choice. You must leave your ego on the doorstep before you enter love.
Attempting to destroy something out of hate or ego often ensures that it will be preserved and disseminated forever.
It doesn't matter how well you're doing, your ego and their accomplishments make you feel like nothing.
Transform jealousy to admiration, and what you admire will become part of your life.
Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances.
Men learn while they teach.
Work for a cause, not for applause.
Live life to express, not to impress.
Starve your ego. Feed your soul.
Bragging dims the soul.
Be capable of negating your ego.
The way to do really big things seems to be to start with deceptively small things.
Instead of treating events as wins or losses, ask Did I learn something I can apply in the future? If not, you must treat it as a loss.
Midlife is the time to let go of an overdominant ego and to contemplate the deeper significance of human existence.
Some people are born on third base and go through life thinking they hit a triple.
I can't tell you if genius is hereditary, because heaven has granted me no offspring.
When the ego dies, the soul awakes.
It's hard to be humble when you are as great as I am.
The ego is not master in its own house.
There is nothing that strengthens the ego more than being right.
On the sentence I've changed my mind: Four simple and underused words.
Amateurs think disagreements are threats. Professionals see them as an opportunity to learn.
I like the moment when I break a man's ego.
It's better to be ignorant than wrong.
Fixed mindset is about ego, growth mindset is about presence.
When someone sings his own praises, he always gets the tune too high.
Destroy your illusions so you can see reality. Destroy your fears so you can take risks. Destroy your ego so you can see life.
One learns to ignore criticism by first learning to ignore applause.
Kill the cow of your ego as quickly as you can, so that your inner spirit can come to life and attain true awareness.
Practice pure generosity to continuously dissipate the ego.
We overestimate the importance of what we focus on because we think we are special people in a special time and place.
Those who are arrogant are insecure. Those who are humble are courageous. Those who don't care about their status are wise.
When you're upset because someone doesn't like you, it's your ego operating: you validate your existence based on their approval.
Never be angry at someone for telling you the truth, no matter how unpleasant. If you don't, you'll eventually stop hearing truth.
Good provocation is virtuous truth seeking that shatters delusion. Bad provocation is the fragile ego that deals with insecurity by lashing out.
Ego says 'I can do no wrong', whereas confidence says 'I can get this right'. Confidence says 'I'm valuable' while ego says 'I'm invaluable'.
Ego is negative but self-respect is positive.
I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself.
You shouldn't gloat about anything you've done; you ought to keep going and find something better to do.
Don't worry about looking good; worry about achieving your goal.
Body is purified by water. Ego by tears. Intellect is purified by knowledge. And soul is purified with love.
A willingness to be wrong in conversation can help you avoid being wrong in a costlier arena. Better to lose an argument than a fortune, or a war.
A boaster and a liar are cousins.
Nations have their ego, just like individuals.
There is no one who would not rather appear to know than to be taught.
I believe that the biggest problem that humanity faces is an ego sensitivity to finding out whether one is right or wrong and identifying what one's strengths and weaknesses are.
I think the hard thing here is seeing the truth. To see the truth, you have to get your ego out of the way because your ego doesn't want to face the truth.
The smaller you can make your ego, the less conditioned you can make your reactions, the less desires you can have about the outcome you want, the easier it to see the reality.
We are vulnerable to the effects of truths we are unwilling to face. Perhaps they threaten our ego or the mental model that structures our routine. Disturbing information is easily rationalized or ignored. Trouble grows in the shadows we fear to illuminate.
Learning is easier if you are honest about your own ignorance. People want to seem in the know. They try to signal that they are intelligent and informed. This is often counterproductive. Insecurity is the enemy of learning. A master knows how to be a beginner.
Teach self-denial and make its practice pleasure, and you can create for the world a destiny more sublime that ever issued from the brain of the wildest dreamer.
If there's one skill which can substantially improve the life of every single person, it is emotional self-control. If you drop your ego, don't take things personally and adopt a detached perspective, your ability to deal with all types of people/situations will immensely improve.
Love isn't something natural. Rather it requires discipline, concentration, patience, faith, and the overcoming of narcissism. It isn't a feeling, it is a practice.
You're not looking for perfection in your partner. Perfection is all about the ego. With soulmate love, you know that true love is what happens when disappointment sets in - and you're willing to deal maturely with these disappointments.
Love means to reach for the sky and with every breath to tear a hundred veils. Love means to step away from the ego, to open the eyes of inner vision and not to take this world so seriously.
Drop jealousy and love wells up. Jealousy means that I am the owner. It is an ego trip, and wherever there is ego there is poison, and the poison kills the very source of love.
Pride is ugly. It says 'If you succeed I am a failure'.
Our own self-love draws a thick veil between us and our faults.
No matter what we talk about, we are talking about ourselves.
Fools try to impress. The wise simply express.
Pride gets no pleasure out of having something, only out of having more of it than the next man... It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.
Every ego wants to be special. If it can't be special by being superior to others, it's also quite happy with being especially miserable.
Through being right, you feel superior and through feeling superior you strengthen your sense of self. In reality, of course, you are only strengthening the illusion of ego.
In all that surrounds him the egotist sees only the frame of his own portrait.
If you get your ego in your way, you will only look to other people and circumstances to blame.
We all want to be famous people, and the moment we want to be something we are no longer free.
Half of the harm that is done in this world is due to people who want to feel important. They don't mean to do harm. But the harm does not interest them.
Withhold admiration from a narcissist and be disliked. Give it and be treated with indifference.
Since [narcissists] deep down, feel themselves to be faultless, it is inevitable that when they are in conflict with the world they will invariably perceive the conflict as the world's fault. Since they must deny their own badness, they must perceive others as bad. They project their own evil onto the world. They never think of themselves as evil, on the other hand, they consequently see much evil in others. M.
The megalomaniac differs from the narcissist by the fact that he wishes to be powerful rather than charming, and seeks to be feared rather than loved. To this type belong many lunatics and most of the great men of history.
The narcissist devours people, consumes their output, and casts the empty, writhing shells aside.
The pride that keeps us from forgiving is the same pride which keeps us from accepting forgiveness.
Pride is an admission of weakness; it secretly fears all competition and dreads all rivals.
Never let pride or concern for your reputation pull you farther into the morass; both will suffer far greater blows by your persistence.
One big mistake I see people make over and over is focusing on proving themselves right, instead of focusing on achieving the best outcome.
Remind yourself how pointless it is to rage and fight and try to one-up those around you. Go and put yourself in touch with the infinite, and end your conscious separation from the world. Reconcile yourself a bit better with the realities of life. Realize how much came before you, and how only wisps of it remain.
Comfort and luxury are usually the chief requirements of life for your ego - its top priorities tend to be accumulations, achievements, and the approval of others.
There are two circumstances that lead to arrogance: one is when you're wrong and you can't face it; the other is when you're right and nobody else can face it.
Many who appear to be seeking widespread popularity are in fact seeking acceptance. Disappointment awaits. Public prominence ensures that you will always be hearing from people who will never accept you. Sensitive people are better off cultivating a few close relationships.
Among real friends there is no rivalry or jealousy of one another, but they are satisfied and contented alike whether they are equal or one of them is superior.
Never criticize. People are very bad at taking criticism rationally. They take it as a blow to their ego, defend themselves stubbornly, and accuse you back. Resentment ensues.
Amateurs see feedback and coaching as someone criticizing them as a person. Professionals know they have weak spots and seek out thoughtful criticism.
Jealousy means ego, jealousy means unconsciousness. Jealousy means that you have not known even a moment of joy and bliss; you are living in misery. Jealousy is a by-product of misery, ego, unconsciousness.
People reject what they do not understand because it makes them feel small. They would rather believe in some other reality, even if it is only an illusion, so long as it makes them feel bigger.
Ego needs honors in order to be validated. Confidence, on the other hand, is able to wait and focus on the task at hand regardless of external recognition.
There are two kinds of pride, both good and bad. 'Good pride' represents our dignity and self-respect. 'Bad pride' is the deadly sin of superiority that reeks of conceit and arrogance.
Steve Jobs had a remarkable knack for letting go of things that didn't work. If you were in an argument with him, and you convinced him that you were right, he would instantly change his mind. He didn't hold on to an idea because he had once believed it to be brilliant. His ego didn't attach to the suggestions he made, even as he threw his full weight behind them. When Steve saw Pixar's directors do the same, he recognized them as kindred spirits.
Look for intelligence and judgment and, most critically, a capacity to anticipate, to see around corners. Also look for loyalty, integrity, a high energy drive, a balanced ego and the drive to get things done.
It is easy to thank after obtaining what you want, thank before having what you want.
A man may do an immense deal of good, if he does not care who gets the credit for it.
The compulsion to take ourselves seriously is in inverse proportion to our creative capacity.
For me humility was a relief, the opposite of humiliation.
Do not hold on to your original idea out of sheer stubbornness, or because your ego is tied up with its rightness.
Next time you find yourself debating someone, try dropping your position entirely and starting from scratch. Walk out of an ego war and into a learning session.
You can't learn if you think you already know. You will not find the answers if you're too conceited and self-assured to ask the questions. You cannot get better if you are convinced you are the best.
Because they consistently observe and listen, the humble improve.
There's just work to be done and lessons to be learnt. In all that is around us.
Speak the truth as you see it. But with kindness. With humility. Without hypocrisy.
Perfect humility tends to the annihilation of self.
With self-awareness, you can calm your mind. With a calm mind, you can understand things better. When you understand things better, you love more.
The more awake we become, the less we need the ego.
First man wants money. Then money man wants power. Then powerful man wants peace of mind.
The ego is an exquisite instrument. Enjoy it, use it - just don't get lost in it.
Consciousness is the bridge, the golden bridge, from this world to the other, from hell to heaven, from the ego to the divine.
The decision to make the present moment into your friend is the end of the ego.
The moment you become aware of the ego in you, it is strictly speaking no longer the ego, but just an old, conditioned mind-pattern. Ego implies unawareness. Awareness and ego cannot coexist.
Self-awareness is not self-centeredness, and spirituality is not narcissism. 'Know thyself' is not a narcissistic pursuit.
How can the heart travel to God, when it is chained by its own desires?
Meditation is a state of mind in which the 'me' is absent. And therefore that very absence brings order.
Is there a meditation that is not the ego trying to become? Is meditation conscious if every effort implies time?
To meditate is to purge the mind of its self-centered activity. And if you have come this far in meditation, you will find there is silence, a total emptiness. The mind is uncontaminated by society; it is no longer subject to any influence, to the pressure of any desire. It is completely alone, and being alone, untouched it is innocent. Therefore there is a possibility for that which is timeless, eternal, to come into being. This whole process is meditation.
To obtain satori, one must let go of the ego. To receive everything, one must open one's hands and give.
Our ego and emotions get in the way of seeing the problem clearly. Detachment is key.
Ego is constantly attempting to acquire and apply the teachings of spirituality for its own benefit.
Forget the self and you will fear nothing, in whatever level or awareness you find yourself to be.
When you do something, you should do it with your whole body and mind; you should be concentrated on what you do. You should do it completely, like a good bonfire. You should not be a smoky fire. You should burn yourself completely. If you do not burn yourself completely, a trace of yourself will be left in what you do.
The true purpose [of Zen] is to see things as they are, to observe things as they are, and to let everything go as it goes... Zen practice is to open up our small mind.
When your ego is no more, only then will you know who you are.
Pride makes us do things well. But it is love that makes us do them to perfection.
A man's ego is the fountainhead of human progress.
Always keep your ego in check and not be afraid to listen. Listening is a great art form.
We are all worms, but I do believe I am a glowworm.
The offspring of riches: Pride, vanity, ostentation, arrogance, tyranny.
Goals must never be from your ego, but problems that cry for a solution.
If there's anything more important than my ego around, I want it caught and shot now.
Impressing people is utterly different from being truly impressive.
The walls of pride are high and wide, can't see over to the other side.
If you start believing in your greatness, it is the death of your creativity.
Love is happy when it is able to give something. The ego is happy when it is able to take something.
The great corrupter of public men is the ego ” corrupter because distracter.
We have two ears and one mouth so that we can listen twice as much as we speak.
It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help.
The more you dis-identify with your ego, the more complete is your freedom.
If you wish to be loved, love.
People confuse ego, lust, insecurity with true love.
In the silence of our egos, we lost each other.
The man who thinks he can live without others is mistaken; the one who thinks others can't live without him is even more deluded.
Big egos are big shields for lots of empty space.
Ego takes everything personally.
The ego is a veil between humans and God. In prayer all are equal.
After success, keep on working.
Your ego is an avid interpreter. It is so quick to interpret events as 'bad' or 'good' or 'right'. It never fails to see the little picture.
Celebrate, but not for too loudly. Be proud, but not for too long. Keep working, always.
It's not the great stars that win; it's the great teams that win. It's the teams that subjugate their ego to the team and put the team first.
We optimize for short-term ego protection over long-term happiness.
It's the sense of superiority and certainty that exceeds the bounds of confidence and talent.
I have an ego the size of a small planet.
If someone corrects you, and you feel offended, then you have an ego problem.
Never be distracted by people's glamorous portraits of themselves and their lives; search and dig for what really imprisons them.