There is no person in this whole world who is a mistake, no matter how different that person may seem.
You are strong. You are beautiful. You are resilient. You are loved. You are capable. You are not weak. You are not defected. You are not weird. You are not a lost cause. You are not different.
It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light.
No darkness lasts forever. And even there, there are stars.
We know you're tired, tired and scared. Happens to everyone, okay? Just don't let your feet stop.
Depression lies. It tells you you've always felt this way, and you always will. But you haven't, and you won't.
No storm, not even the one in your life, can last forever. The storm is just passing over.
The more you see and accept reality, the more you'll understand and love yourself.
There are some things about myself I can't explain to anyone. There are some things I don't understand at all.
Sometimes, when I say I am ok, I want someone to hold me tight, look me in the eyes and say No, I know you are not.
There is no normal life that is free of pain. It's the very wrestling with our problems that can be the impetus for our growth.
Going through anxiety or depression or any other psychological condition doesn't make you unlovable - it makes you human.
All obstacles that are perceived with love can transform into the greatest life lessons.
Never lose hope. This life is worth the struggle. Your future self is pleading with you to stay. You are more than your thoughts. You are more than your fears and stronger than you give yourself credit for.
If you are depressed and anxious, the main thing I want to tell you is: your pain makes sense. It has meaning. You aren't a machine with broken parts. You are a human being with unmet needs. Don't let anyone tell you you're crazy or broken. You deserve love and practical support.
Being deluded and scared will make you suffocate. Being honest with yourself and responsible will make you breathe.
There will always be suffering. But we must not suffer over the suffering.
It isn't that they can't see the solution. It is that they can't see the problem.
Whereas pain is a physical experience, suffering is a mental one. It is the sense that things should be other than they are. Its antidote is acceptance.
And once the storm is over, you won't remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won't even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won't be the same person who walked in.
We cannot simply sit and stare at our wounds forever. We must stand up and move on to the next action.
It is in dialogue with pain that many beautiful things acquire their value.
There are moments when troubles enter our lives and we can do nothing to avoid them. But they are there for a reason. Only when we have overcome them we will understand why they were there.
Depression is, in part, grief for your own life not turning out how it should; grief for your own needs not being met.
Don't cling to the yesterday. It was beautiful, but it was beautiful yesterday.
Depression isn't a disease; depression is a normal response to abnormal life experiences.
Depression is a kind of constricted consciousness.
The opposite of play is not work - the opposite of play is depression.
What people think causes depression: being weak, being lazy, choosing to think negative. What actually causes depression: a loved one dying, trauma, bullying, low self-esteem, body image issues, financial struggles, genetic factors.
Depression is being colorblind and constantly told how colorful the world is.
Depressed means you need deep rest from the character you've been playing in the world.
With depression, one of the most important things you could realize is that you're not alone.
Depression is a medical condition. We need to create a world where people are as comfortable seeking care for their minds as they are for their bodies.
Real change will come about not as a result of prayer, but of using intelligence and taking action.
I have never felt so much pain in my life. It was tough for me to even get out of bed and I had days when I couldn't walk, let alone write a rhyme.
You have to take responsibility for your own happiness.
You need to know that part of being strong and tough is having the courage to ask for help when you need it. You must not silently suffer. You are all in this together. And, if I may speak personally, we are all in this together because asking for help was one of the best decisions that I have ever made. You will me continually amazed how life changes for the better.
One of the best things that helps depression is work, and socialising with other people and connecting. Because when you work you find purpose.
I was hiding out from the celebrity thing, I was smoking way too much dope. I was sitting on the couch and just turning into a doughnut, and I really got irritated with myself. I got to: 'What's the point? I know better than this.
Therapy gives you another perspective when you are so lost in your own spiral, it helps.
I've suffered through depression and anxiety my entire life. I just want these kids to know that this modern thing, where everyone is feeling shallow and less connected...that's not human.
I think the saddest people always try their hardest to make people happy because they know what it's like to feel absolutely worthless and they don't want anyone else to feel like that.
Depression is the most unpleasant thing I have ever experienced... It is that absence of being able to envisage that you will ever be cheerful again. The absence of hope. That very deadened feeling, which is so very different from feeling sad. Sad hurts but it's a healthy feeling. It is a necessary thing to feel. Depression is very different. J.K.
I need one of those long hugs where you kinda forget whatever else is happening around you for minute.
I'll never forget how the depression and loneliness felt good and bad at the same time. Still does.
People talk about depression all the time. The difference between depression and sadness is sadness is just from happenstance - whatever happened or didn't happen for you, or grief, or whatever it is. Depression is your body saying f*ck you, I don't want to be this character anymore, I don't want to hold up this avatar that you've created in the world. It's too much for me.
You can't stop the future. You can't rewind the past.
I'm tired. Go to sleep then. No, you don't understand.
Being depressed, all I needed was someone who could listen to me, believe in me, encourage me, but most of all, understand me.
I struggled with anxiety and depression and questioned whether or not I wanted to be alive anymore. It was when I hit this low that I decided to reach out and ask for the help of a licensed therapist. This decision ultimately helped save my life. You don't have to wait for things.
You can't stay in your corner of the Forest waiting for others to come to you. You have to go to them sometimes.
I don't feel very much like Pooh today.
It's okay to not be okay.
There's always a solution.
Reframing is a super power.
It won't always be like this.
I need a break from my own thoughts.
I'm too tired for long explanations.
Love your future more than your past.
Numb the dark and you numb the light.
Winter always comes to an end, always.
Do not stumble on something behind you.
Real change requires a desire to change.
All of our miseries are nothing but attachment.
When you don't know what you need, you want everything.
The act of releasing your shame is - in itself - healing.
Only stepping out of old ruts will bring new insights.
The Universe has your back even when things aren't working out the way you expected.
I was blaming instead of taking responsibility. I was taking the easy route that led nowhere instead of taking the hard one that led somewhere.
Even lost and alone, I kept moving forward. Even scared and confused, I kept moving forward. In the end, that's what you must do: keep moving forward.
Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.
Go to the place inside that hurts. The part that's lonely or sad. Your broken heart. Your bruised ego. The part of you that worries it will always be this way. Go there now and silently repeat: May you be happy. May you be safe. May you be filled with love. You're not alone.
Don't attack your problems. Face them, confess them, understand what they are. That is the process.
Nothing has a hold on your mind that you cannot break free of.
Nobody else can destroy you except you; nobody else can save you except you.
Offer whatever light you can.
Reminder - if you feel chronically depressed - try this before you swallow pills: Sunlight, exercise, clean diet, meditation, 8-9 hours of sleep, human interaction. Daily for 2-3 months. There's a very high chance your depression will get fixed.
It's not too late to recover. You're young, you're tough. You're adaptable. You can patch up your wounds, lift up your head and move on.
You got this. One day at a time. You are resilient, courageous, and capable. Be proud of yourself. It isn't easy enduring depression/anxiety.
What not to say to someone with anxiety: quit being dramatic, you need to toughen up, you're just lazy, when are you going to grow up?, pull yourself together. Try one of these instead: I know this is hard for you, take some time, it's okay, how can I help?
Please be aware, I am trying my hardest to push through the pain, the exhaustion and fatigue, the brain fog, the insomnia, the fear, the guilt, the judgement, the relentlessness of it all. All the time.
How to help people struggling with their mental health: Learn about mental health, go to visit them, give practical support, ask other people to help, listen to them, give them a hug, celebrate their small steps.
If you have a friend going through a crisis, never say if I can help, let me know. It sounds vague, perfunctory. I try to always say: please tell me what I can do to help: I want to help you. Friendship is a commitment: always show up in a crisis.
With the right help, we can understand these problems and we can fix these problems together. But to do that, the very first step is we have to stop insulting these signals by saying they're a sign of weakness, or madness or purely biological, except for a tiny number of people.
If you know someone who's depressed, please resolve never to ask them why. Depression isn't a straightforward response to a bad situation; depression just is, like the weather.
We can't take away the suffering of others. What we can do is show up for them. And in doing so, take away the pain of having to suffer alone.
It's okay to not be okay all the time.
If you think you are alone in your problems, you are not alone. There are 7 billion people out there. Someone is going through the same thing.
Go on that journey to discover who you really are, what you love, what you hate, what's the content of your mind, why you are the way you are. Be curious about your own mind, your fears and your sadness. Meditate and take care of yourself. The more self-knowledge you'll have, the better you'll feel.
The people who have already walked through the fire can help you do the same.
If you're constantly in the river you'll drown. Learn to relax and pause on the shore. We are not evolved to swim 24/7.
There is no end to ever-expanding desire. The mad desire for possessions ever leads to strife and misery.
Many, many men have been just as troubled morally and spiritually as you are right now. Happily, some of them kept records of their troubles. You'll learn from them - if you want to.
Do not get lost in a sea of despair. Do not become bitter or hostile. Be hopeful, be optimistic.
If you are depressed or anxious - your pain makes sense. You're not crazy. You're not broken. There's scientific evidence for why people feel this way. There's a mix of causes - biological, psychological and social. None are your fault and all can be dealt with, with love and support.
No matter how bad things are right now, no matter how stuck you feel, no matter how many days you've spent crying and wishing things were different, no matter how hopeless and depressed you feel, I promise you that you won't feel this way forever. Keep going.
This is one more piece of advice I have for you: don't get impatient. Even if things are so tangled up you can't do anything, don't get desperate or blow a fuse and start yanking on one particular thread before it's ready to come undone. You have to figure it's going to be a long process and that you'll work on things slowly, one at a time.
If you run away from pain without identifying and solving the underlying issue, you will probably run to exactly the same situation again.
I believe depression is legitimate. But I also believe that if you don't: exercise, eat nutritious foods, get sunlight, get enough sleep, consume positive material, surround yourself with support, then you aren't giving yourself a fighting chance.
When something is too close to your eyes you cannot see it. For seeing, some distance is needed.
Love is the most healing force in the world; nothing goes deeper than love. It heals not only the body, not only the mind, but also the soul. If one can love then all one's wounds disappear. Then one becomes whole - and to be whole is to be holy.
I was only able to start changing my life when I realized my depression was not a malfunction. It's a signal. Your depression is a signal. It's telling you something.
The scientific evidence is clear that exercise significantly reduces depression and anxiety.
The more you think life is about money, and status, and how you look to other people, the more vulnerable you are to depression and anxiety. Just like junk food has taken over our diets, junk values have taken over our minds and made us sick.
It's okay to worry; it's okay to be sad. It's okay to get scared; it's okay to be mad. It's okay to embrace our humanity. In fact we don't have any choice but to be the sensitive, vulnerable creatures we were made to be. Breathe. Let go a bit. It's okay to be you just as you are.
In meditation we learn that sitting is enough. Breathing is enough. This life is enough. And we're enough too.
Some lessons can't be taught, they simply have to be learned.
I am always with myself, and it is I who am my tormentor.
What if we weren't so hurried to find the answers? What if it was safe to hang out in the unknown? To stumble around in the dark, curious as to what we might find, comfortable in not having it all sorted out. What would we discover about ourselves? About each other? About life?
If you are being gentle with yourself during a difficult time, that is not self-pity. You would show compassion to a friend in pain, even a stranger, so why withhold it from yourself? Don't. Keep moving.
For anyone struggling or battling through mental and chronic illness, please please remember that you are so brave even though you might not think it. You are literally fighting for your life, fighting through pain and fighting to get through each day, which makes you so fricking strong.
Things to remember: it's okay to cry, it's okay to ask for help, you are enough, you matter, bad days happen, you are not alone.
In case no one told you today, you are needed, you are stronger than you think, you are doing great, you deserve the best, you are here for a reason, don't give up.
Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.
Take your M.E.D.S.: MEDITATION - It's easy to be constantly doing with no time to be. EXERCISE - Our body needs to be stretched. It's a use it or lose it. DIET - Food for energy which builds and augments rather than destroys. SLEEP - Get the correct amount, feel great.
Stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.
Being depressed is an opportunity to make a new beginning and to take a new direction. Once you accept the fact that for now, you're stalled and lost, then you can take the first step.
You can't control what happens to you but you can control how you react and the direction you'll take.
We're the middle children of history, man. No purpose or place. We have no Great War. No Great Depression. Our Great War's a spiritual war... our Great Depression is our lives. We've all been raised on television to believe that one day we'd all be millionaires, and movie gods, and rock stars. But we won't. And we're slowly learning that fact. And we're very, very pissed off.
Much misery comes from our current self not wanting to betray our past self.
Suffering is an indication of ignorance, but in seeking an escape from suffering you are only nourishing ignorance.
We are always trying to build a bridge between 'what is' and 'what should be'. And in that there is contradiction and conflict.
When you do not get to the root of the problem, you cannot solve it in any meaningful manner.
Not all storms come to disturb your life. Some come to clear your path.
Be willing to release those things stored in your heart and mind that are causing you discomfort.
We are downtrodden by society, by culture, by religions, by priests, by leaders, by saints, and unless you understand this you will never understand fear.
When you're ready to wake up, you're going to wake up. And if you're not ready, you're going to stay pretending you're just poor little me.
Most symptoms of depression and anxiety are due to: GMO food, no exercise, sitting all day, disconnect with nature, gossiping, no ambition, lack of sunlight, toxic relationships, victimhood mentality, pleasure seeking. There's no medication to cure this.
Why people are miserable: lack of purpose, lack of fulfilling relationships, poor self-image, sedentariness, no connection to nature, chasing dopamine highs, no discipline, trash diet, comparing oneself to others, lack of self-respect, scarcity mindset, toxic environment.
There are real brain changes that can happen when you become depressed that can make it harder to get out.
Many depressed people can only see their pains, and their hurts, and their resentments, and their failures. They can't see the blue sky and the yellow leaves, you know?
Depression is more than emotion it's: trouble concentrating and making decisions, constant negative thoughts, fatigue and body aches, irritability and restlessness, feeling empty, loss of interest in everything.
Suffering is not holding you; you are holding suffering.
Frustrations come because we impose our illusions on reality.
In the flame of awareness all problems are finally resolved.
Depression is a gift. The only inconvenient is that you need to wait a few weeks, and sometimes a few years, to appreciate it. Be patient.
Ordinarily we do not discover the wisdom of our feelings because we do not let them complete their work. We try to suppress them or discharge them in premature action. Not realizing that they are a process of creation which, like birth, begins as a pain and turns into a child.
We must abandon completely the notion of blaming the past for any kind of situation we're in.
The greatest wisdom lies on the other side, immediately on the other side, of the greatest despair.
If you are depressed, you live in the past. If you are anxious, you live in the future. But if you are at peace, you live in the present.
Our wounds need nurturing care in order to heal. If we are to nurture and heal, we must admit that the wounds exist.
Meditation can and will order your thinking and therefore your mind. As we heal the wounded places in our minds, we grow.
Resistance to unwanted circumstances has the power to keep those circumstances alive and well for a very long time.
Difficult events occur for our spiritual growth. These aren't meant to be punishment. Beautiful sunset awaits after heavy rain.
Life will give you whatever experience is the most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at this moment.
We crave for things which create the illusion of security and comfort but which bring us only conflict, confusion and antagonism.
Your inward conflicts express themselves in outward disasters.
Busyness serves as an existential reassurance, a hedge against emptiness.
Exhaustion is the drug of choice for conscientious anxious people.
A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts. So he loses touch with reality and lives in a world of illusion.
Don't trust your thought when you are depressed. It is highly unlikely that it is true. Whatever you are depressed about won't last forever.
Depression and anxiety are a symptom of too much consumption and too little creation. You were put on this earth to create.
Everyone needs a project. Something they're building, a skill that raises their value, a mission that improves the world, even if only minutely. A lot of this modern anxiety, depression, and substance abuse could be remedied this way.
Our epidemics of depression, anxiety and addiction are signals. They are telling us something is going terribly wrong with how we live.
The more you think life is about having stuff and superiority and showing it off, the more unhappy, and the more depressed and anxious, you will be.
You deserve to rest. Even if only for a moment. Put down the weight you're carrying. Let go of the need to keep it all together. Take off your warrior mask. For this moment, now ... just breathe.
You may have a million desires to be in other places, doing other things, but you are not there, you are here.
Pain is inevitable as long as you are identified with your mind.
Don't live your life avoiding pain, but don't chase it either.
I was doomed to fail and suffer. As a fool, I based my entire happiness on external factors. As a wise man, I should have found it on internal ones.
Accept suffering and achieve atonement through it - that is what you must do.
People fall so in love with their pain, they can't leave it behind. The same as the stories they tell. We trap ourselves.
There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.
If you got out of bed today and chose to face the world, I'm proud of you. If you're still struggling to, I'm rooting for you.
Depression/anxiety requires a tremendously strong person to endure its pain. You are that person. It may not feel like it, but you are.
Strong and independent? I'm neither. I'm just being pushed along by reality, whether I like it or not.
Suffering usually relates to wanting things to be different from the way they are.
There are two kinds of suffering. There is the suffering you run away from, which follows you everywhere. And there is the suffering you face directly, and so become free.
If the mind is attentive and does not move away from suffering, you will see that out of total attention comes not only energy but also that suffering comes to an end.
Pretending to not be depressed is more exhausting than the actual depression.
When you are in pain, you must take responsibility for the elimination of your own pain.
I'm confused. Really confused. And it's a lot deeper than you think.
When sadness comes, accept it. Listen to its song. It has something to give to you. It has a gift which no happiness can give to you, only sadness can give it.
I didn't really cry, perhaps I was numb. I guess saying goodbye was my problem.
It's so difficult to describe depression to someone who's never been there, because it's not sadness.
Depression is melancholy minus its charms - the animation, the fits.
The urge for the repetition of an experience however pleasant, beautiful, fruitful, is the soil in which sorrow grows.
I, too, remember that feeling. You are caught between all that was and all that must be. You feel lost.
Have you ever had that feeling - that you'd like to go to a whole different place and become a whole different self?
There comes a point where you no longer care if there's a light at the end of the tunnel or not. You're just sick of the tunnel.
I cried hysterically when I was depressed. It was one of my main symptoms. It felt like the only way to rid the pain. My deeply rooted male ego doesn't want me to say that right now. But I will. It's the truth. Being vulnerable is strong.
Remember always that whatsoever is happening around you is rooted in the mind. Mind is always the cause. It is the projector, and outside there are only screens - you project yourself. If you feel it is ugly then change the mind.
I might think I can't take it any more, that I can't go on any more, but one way or another I get past that.
Autumn finally arrived. And when it did, I came to a decision. Something had to give: I couldn't keep on living like this.
Loneliness hangs over our culture today like a thick smog.
Loneliness isn't just some inevitable human sadness, like death. It's a product of the way we live now.
There is always something out there for you: a hand, a smile, beautiful eyes. Learn to stop, learn to listen, learn to see.
Being alone all the time is not good for you. Your brain evolved to keep you with the tribe to ensure safety and survival. That's why loneliness hurts - it's your genes telling you that you're at risk.
Loneliness is not the physical absence of other people: you can be surrounded by people and be lonely. It is the feeling that you are not sharing anything meaningful with other people.
It's been known for decades that depression has 3 kinds of cause: biological, psychological, and social. They are all real. Yet most people are told a heavily biological story, with a little side-dish of psychology, and virtually nothing about social causes. We need a correction.
At my book signings, I always ask people if they would like a hug. In Oxford this afternoon, a woman said yes, teared up, and said: that's the first hug I have had in ten years. There's so much isolation in our culture.
No matter how many people are supposedly experiencing depression/anxiety, we feel absolutely alone when we are the ones going through it.
Isolating yourself is one of the symptoms of depression no one talks about. You push everyone away, you don't have the energy to make an effort and ultimately you end up alone because of it. Making things worse.
The person who tries to keep everyone happy often ends up feeling the loneliest.
The one thing I don't want to be is a burden to anyone.
I had nothing to offer anybody except my own confusion.
Mental illness is so much more complicated than any pill that any mortal could invent.
You are not defined by your mental illness.
Honor yourself by not criticizing, judging, or denying what you feel.
It's horrifying that many mental health services turn away people with addiction problems, telling them to sort out their addiction first - as if addiction isn't fuelled by problems like depression or psychosis.
Illness is the night side of life, a more onerous citizenship. Everyone who is born holds dual citizenship, in the kingdom of the well and in the kingdom of the sick. Although we all prefer to use the good passport, sooner or later each of us is obliged, at least for a spell, to identify ourselves as citizens of that other place.
Your kids mental health is more important than their grades.
You can't see people's mental health. Be kind always.
Stop texting, start listening.
Comparing yourself to others is a guaranteed prescription for misery.
Just because a person is smiling today doesn't mean they weren't crying yesterday. Just because they made it to work doesn't mean they didn't have a panic attack that morning. Just because they say they're fine doesn't mean they are. It's scary how easily mental illness is masked.
If you feel depressed, it's okay to talk about it. If you feel anxious, it's okay to talk about it. If you feel lonely, it's okay to talk about it. If you are struggling with any mental health problems, it's okay to talk about it.
To anyone feeling depressed and anxious: Fastest way to feel better is to get offline.
No amount of social media will replace a hug, an handshake and a real look in the eyes.
Put down your phone. Talk to someone face to face. We are all kinder out here in the meat-world.
The scrutiny that young people face on social media can lead to anxiety, depression, and even suicidal thoughts.
Why are depression and anxiety on the rise? Because modern society is designed to make you anxious and depressed. Garbage food, sedentary lifestyle, cubicle work, social media, toxic politics, hookup culture, loss of religion, decline of family, drugs, consumerism.
The Internet was born into a world where many people had already lost their sense of connection to each other. The collapse had already been taking place for decades by then. The web arrived offering them a kind of parody of what they were losing - Facebook friends in place of neighbors, video games in place of meaningful work, status updates in place of status in the world.
Facebook is virtual prison which keeps dead relationships alive forever.
I am your addiction. Your time is mine. I control you. You need me. I define you. You belong to me. -Social Media.
We have a whole range of devices and apps designed to be addictive. Build mental firewalls so that you can focus on what's important. Learn to control environmental stimuli. Don't lose the attention war.
Since time began people: Got married, ate meat, raised families, spoke face to face, confronted issues. For 60 years people have: Had casual relationships, ate fried carbs, lived alone, spoke through screens, buried problems. A millennia of behaviours cant be wrong.
As kids become more depressed and anxious, limiting screen time is not enough. Kids need less homework and fewer tests, longer recesses and lunches, more socioemotional learning, more unstructured, unscheduled time to play.
Aim for happiness and you'll get disappointment. Aim for contribution and you'll get meaning.
The things ordained for you - teach yourself to be at one with those.
Man must be concerned with eliminating the cause of war within himself.
Humor is one of the most serious tools we have for dealing with impossible situations.
Toxins consumed by people on a daily basis: sugar, vegetable oils, TV, excessive/indiscriminate social media, socialization, hurriedness, political and celebrity gossip, news, friends, social approval/validation.
When you access social media, email, or the news, you enable the voices of all of humanity to compete to set your agenda. These voices take up significant mental real estate. They make it hard to hear your own thinking. Be vigilant about guarding your own cognitive resources.
Modern tech and media tempt us to spend our lives reacting to things we can't change. Obsessing over far-off dramas, ignoring the decline close to home. Smartphones offer 24/7 access to on demand anxiety. Make your tools serve you. Don't serve them. Act more. React less.
People worry constantly about their place in their tribe. They find it hard enough to manage the opinions of a few friends and family. Managing the visible opinions of thousands? Impossible. Social media made everyone a micro celebrity and sent social anxiety through the roof.
Part 1. Mobile phones should be called distraction machines. Checking your distraction machine first thing in the morning is not the ideal way to start your day.
Part 2. Entertainment hubs masquerading as productivity devices - the perfect combo.
The comedian Marc Maron once wrote that every status update is a just a variation on a single request: 'Would someone please acknowledge me?
When they talk among themselves, advertising people have been admitting since the 1920s that their job is to make people feel inadequate - and then offer their product as the solution to the sense of inadequacy they have created.
Now I am beginning to live a little and feel less like a sick oyster at low tide.
Hitting rock bottom once teaches you lessons that reaching the highest mountain top 1000 times never will.
It's easy to get depressed when you believe life should be easy, comfortable and without surprises. It's easy to be happy when you accept life is hard, uncomfortable and surprising.
So much of what holds us back in life are the long-held resentments stemming from childhood.
If you usher in positive energy, you have no choice but to attract light energy.
The universe is not short on wake-up calls. We're just quick to hit the snooze button.
Because of your difficult experience, you will become stronger, wiser and more compassionate toward those having a hard time.
Attachment brings misery, unattachment brings blissfulness. So use things, but don't be used by them. Live life but don't be lived by it.
Look at life with more playful eyes. Don't be serious. Don't pretend to be a thinker, a philosopher. Just simply be a human being.
Life is an empty canvas; it becomes whatsoever you paint on it. You can paint misery, you can paint bliss. This freedom is your glory.
And you'll return to real life. You need to live it to the fullest. No matter how shallow and dull things might get, this life is worth living. I guarantee it.
If you look for something to complain about, you will find it. If you look for something to be grateful for, you will find it. Most lives have their share of good and bad luck. Gratitude is a choice of emphasis.
Don't let your difficult past define who you are today. Bow respectfully to your past and proclaim, From now on, I have decided to be a little happier!
Let there be pain, let there be suffering. Go through the dark night, and you will reach to a beautiful sunrise. It is only in the womb of the dark night that the sun evolves. It is only through the dark night that the morning comes.
In those moments when our inner turmoil has really quietened, we find significance in things we wouldn't expect to find significant at all.
You don't control the rain, but you control how you respond to it. You don't control what ignited your depression, but you control what you'll do today and tomorrow.
How to stop being miserable: don't use the past as an excuse, stop watching the news, start telling the truth, drop toxic people, avoid outrage culture, meditate, take on new responsibilities, make everything around you better. You don't have to be miserable.
Many things cause pain which would cause pleasure if you regarded their advantages.
Developing your character is the best defense against the suffering of existence.
You feel good, you feel bad, and these feelings are bubbling from your own unconsciousness, from your own past. Nobody is responsible except you. Nobody can make you angry, and nobody can make you happy.
How many things have to happen to you before something occurs to you?
Meditation is the only answer to all the questions of man. It may be frustration, it may be depression, it may be sadness, it may be meaninglessness, it may be anguish: The problems may be many but the answer is one. Meditation is the answer.
Mindfulness is not about what arises. It is about how we are when something arises ” how much presence, balance, compassion are we bringing forth in relation to that anxiety or rage or whatever is causing us pain.
The more you understand yourself, the more peaceful you'll be.
The notion that meditation always makes us feel peaceful is a falsehood - an attempt to suppress the authentic experience of being alive. Instead we can think of meditation as allowing, accepting, not arguing or finding fault with ourselves or our lives. Breathe. You are enough.
Sitting in meditation is an act of silent rebellion against a system built on convincing us that it isn't safe to pause. That to be complete we must do this, or achieve that, or buy this, or wear that. The realization that I'm okay just sitting here is where freedom begins.
Meditation is a method of cultivating unconditional friendliness toward ourselves, and for parting the curtain of indifference that distances us from the suffering of others. It is our vehicle for learning to be a truly loving person.
If we can train ourselves through meditation to be more open and more accepting toward the wild arc of our experience, if we can lean into the difficulties of life and the ride of our minds, we can become more settled and relaxed amid whatever life brings us.
We know how to sacrifice ten years for a diploma, and we are willing to work very hard to get a job, a car, a house, and so on. But we have difficulty remembering that we are alive in the present moment, the only moment there is for us to be alive.