Reputation is what strangers think of you. Character is what your friends think of you.
You're offended when you fear that it might be true.
You may be sure that you are at peace with yourself when no noise reaches you, when no word shakes you out of yourself.
Not taking things personally is a superpower.
Does what's happened keep you from acting with justice, generosity, self-control, sanity, prudence, honesty, humility, straightforwardness, and all the other qualities that allow a person's nature to fulfill itself?
The wise man is calm, loving and never rushed. He chooses direction over speed, doing over talking, giving over taking, hard over easy.
He who blames others has a long way to go on his journey. He who blames himself is halfway there. He who blames no one has arrived.
What doesn't kill us makes us stronger.
What we know matters but who we are matters more.
Be the first to laugh at your own blunder, and no one will laugh at you.
You can tell the character of every man when you see how he gives and receives praise.
Be not fond therefore of praise, but seek virtue that leads to it.
It takes 20 years to build a reputation and 5 minutes to ruin it.
Men show their character in nothing more clearly than what they think laughable.
A man's true character comes out when he's drunk.
Only a man's character is the real criterion of worth.
If you wanna see the true character of person watch the way they treat someone who can't do anything for them.
A simple strategy to save you so many headaches: don't care about winning trivial arguments. Someone says something you disagree with? Smile, nod, and move on to more important things. Life is short. Not caring about having the last word will save you so much time.
You must not be influenced by the opponent.
Don't give the small things more time than they deserve.
What should we work for? Only this: proper understanding; unselfish action; truthful speech. A resolve to accept whatever happens as necessary and familiar; flowing like water from the same source and spring.
Experience has taught me this, that we undo ourselves by impatience.
The courage of today is the character of tomorrow.
If there be any truer measure of a man than by what he does, it must be by what he gives.
We must live our lives to a higher standard. The standard we set for ourselves must makes us feel uncomfortable. If the standard you set for yourself allows you to feel comfortable, you must re-evaluate the bar you set for yourself.
You become more attractive when you don't need love. You become richer when you don't need money. You become more convincing when you don't need to impress.
Confidence isn't the ability to make everyone like you, but rather, to feel comfortable if no one likes you.
If your reputation can't absorb a few blows, it wasn't worth anything in the first place.
The first thing that any education ought to give a man is character and the second thing is education.
If, of course, your action is wrong, just don't do it at all, but if it's right, why be afraid of people whose criticism is off the mark?
Men of few words are the best men.
It isn't what we say or think that defines us, but what we do.
A man with no enemies is a man with no character.
Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habits. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.
Most people say that it's the intellect which makes a great scientist. They are wrong: it is character.
I look to a day when people will not be judged by the color of their skin, but by the content of their character.
I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character!
What such a man needs is not courage but nerve control, cool headedness. This he can only get by practice.
The superior man is impassive: praise him or condemn him, he always carries.
Man only succeeds in life by governing his character or by forging one.
We cannot live better than in seeking to become better.
Character is destiny.
A boy knows, a man does.
Routine becomes character.
Character is higher than intellect.
Suffering is the true test of life.
Character is what you are in the dark.
Human reason grows rich by self-conquest.
Character is the main object of education.
Talent is a gift, but character is a choice.
The weak choose easy. The strong choose hard.
Discipline is the root of all good qualities.
We must not only put up with it, but love it.
You can tell a lot about a man by his posture.
Winning takes talent, to repeat takes character.
We're either getting better or we're getting worse.
Humble in victory; noble in defeat. Always show class.
An important part of who you are is what you want to be.
Slowing down is fine. Taking a step back is wise. Persevering is genius.
Measure your true power by how generous you are with others. Measure your character by how calm you respond to external events.
Not to be driven this way and that, but always behave with justice and see things as they are.
Good character is more to be praised than outstanding talent. Most talents are, to some extent, a gift. Good character, by contrast, is not given to us. We have to build it, piece by piece - by thought, choice, courage, and determination. H.
To compose our character is our duty, not to compose books, and to win, not battles and provinces, but order and tranquility in our conduct. Our great and glorious masterpiece is to live appropriately. All other things, ruling, hoarding, building, are only little appendages and props, at most.
When your mind is not complaining and is responsible, courageous and confident; you become inexplicably beautiful.
Without trials, manhood can never be built.
Get out there and do what you're supposed to do whether you feel like it or not.
To live in a great idea means to treat the impossible as though it were possible. It is just the same with a strong character; and when an idea and a character meet, things arise which fill the world with wonder for thousands of years.
Leaders must own everything in their world. There is no one else to blame.
The true soldier fights not because he hates what is in front of him, but because he loves what is behind him.
When you're calm from within, you cease to create chaos without. And even if the external chaos is there, it no longer affects you. The world is turbulent if you're turbulent. It's calm when you're calm.
Choose as a guide one whom you will admire more when you see him act than when you hear him speak.
A man must become reconciled to his lot, must complain of it as little as possible, and must lay hold of whatever good it may had.
I think it is only important to love the world, not to despise it, not for us to hate each other, but to be able to regard the world and ourselves and all beings with love, admiration and respect.
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear, and with a manly heart.
It's easy to have emotional control when everything is going well. It's only during stormy seas that we see who are the real sailors.
The greatest battles of life are fought out daily in the silent chambers of the soul.
Scars fade with time. And the ones that never go away, well, they build character, maturity, caution.
Arguing with a fool proves there are two.
You can tell a lot about a fellow's character by his way of eating jelly beans.
You don't need to take the last dollar.
What I say is that, if a man really likes potatoes, he must be a pretty decent sort of fellow.
Fools are more healthy than the so-called wise. They live in the moment and they know that they are fools, so they are not worried about what others think about them.
Just because you lost me as a friend doesn't mean you gained me as an enemy. I still wanna see you eat. Just not at my table.
Avoid banquets which are given by strangers and by ignorant persons. But if ever there is occasion to join in them, let your attention be carefully fixed, that you slip not into the manners of the vulgar .
For example at a banquet do not say how a man ought to eat, but eat as you ought to eat.
Choose rather to punish your appetites than to be punished through them.
Over your wine do not talk much to display your learning; for you will utter bilious stuff.
The perfect man is 80% badass and 20% sweetheart. While the perfect woman is 80% sweetheart and 20% badass.
The easily flattered are easily fooled.
The more people you try to please the more enslaved you become.
Our character is basically a composite of our habits. Because they are consistent, often unconscious patterns, they constantly, daily, express our character.
Having character means knowing how to respond, or not, to external events so that you keep your inner peace.
It's really easy to fall into the trap of believing that what we do is more important than what we are. Of course, it's the opposite that's true: What we are ultimately determines what we do!
If you can't treat someone with dignity and respect - then you need to get out.
Whom the gods wish to destroy they first call promising.
The weak shows his strength and hides his weaknesses; the magnificent exhibits his weaknesses like ornaments.
In short, know this: Human lives are brief and trivial. Yesterday a blob of semen; tomorrow embalming fluid, ask. To pass through this brief life as nature demands. To give it up without complaint. Like an olive that ripens and falls. Praising its mother, thanking the tree it grew on.
How many people don't even know your name. How many will soon have forgotten it. How many offer you praise now - and tomorrow, perhaps, contempt. That to be remembered is worthless. Life fame. Like everything.
Don't be disturbed. Uncomplicate yourself. Someone has done wrong... to himself. Something happens to you. Good. It was meant for you by nature, woven into the pattern from the beginning.
On your worst day, you live better than many people on their best. Stop complaining and have some perspective and gratitude.
For it is better to die of hunger and so to be released from grief and fear than to live in abundance with perturbation.
People with courage and character always seem sinister to the rest.
No man is fit to command another that cannot command himself.
It's all in how you perceive it. You're in control. You can dispense with misperception at will, like rounding the point.
The essence of greatness is the perception that virtue is enough.
The wise never try to impress: they just do what must be done.
In short term games, skills are more important than character. In long term games, character dominates.
Self-control is the chief element in self-respect, and respect of self, in turn, is the chief element in courage.
When you think you've been injured, apply this rule: If the community isn't injured by it, neither am I. And if it is, anger is not the answer. Show the offender where he went wrong.
The only real revolution is the enlightenment of the mind and the improvement of character. The only real emancipation is individual.
Character may almost be called the most effective means of persuasion.
It is their character indeed that makes people who they are. But it is by reason of their actions that they are happy or the reverse.
The smarter you get, the less you react when it isn't worth it.
It is with trifles, and when he is off guard, that a man best reveals his character.
Silence is the cornerstone of character.
The Stoic wise man may tremble in the face of danger. What matters is what he does next.
A Stoic is determined, but not obstinate. A Stoic controls what they can, recognizes they cannot change that which is out of their control, but that they can change their mind... because they are open to learning they were wrong or misinformed.
We cannot control the evil tongues of others; but a good life enables us to disregard them.
Character develops itself in the stream of life.
Don't just look at the river, jump in it, embrace it, as much as you can. Meaning is not found on the shore.
Life is short. That's all there is to say. Get what you can from the present - thoughtfully, justly. Unrestrained moderation.
Character - the willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life - is the source from which self-respect springs.
Choose a life of character not of convenience.
Admire the people who beat you. Hire them.
What embitters the world is not excess of criticism, but an absence of self-criticism.
You cannot hope to build a better world without improving individuals. To that end, each of us must work for his own improvement and at the same time share a general responsibility for all humanity, our particular duty being to aid those to whom we think we can be most useful.
If no one feels comfortable criticizing you, the likelihood that you will be better tomorrow is most probably nonexistent.
A friend must be free to advise, and even to upbraid, without feeling embarrassed.
It was for the best. So Nature has no choice but to do it.
Having character starts by taking responsibility, grows with persistence, ends with inner peace.
When we blather about trivial things, we ourselves become trivial, for our attention gets taken up with trivialities. You become what you give your attention to.
When you don't speak your mind to avoid criticism, you have stunted your own personal growth.
What we can and should change is ourselves: our impatience, our egoism , our sense of injury, our lack of love and forbearance. I regard every other attempt to change the world, even if it springs from the best intentions, as futile.
If I really want to improve my situation, I can work on the one thing over which I have control - myself.
Responsibility is always the very first of freedom.
Character is doing what you don't want to do but know you should do.
If you are undisciplined, you are a slave to your moods, you are a slave to your passions.
If there is something that must be done, it is better not to rely on others.
When you know what you want, discipline becomes easy. When you know what you stand for, persevering becomes easy. When you want self-knowledge, meditate.
Stop making excuses. Stop being a victim. Take personal responsibility.
Fearing commitment is a fear of responsibility.
Whoever then wishes to be free, let him neither wish for anything nor avoid anything which depends on others: if he does not observe this rule, he must be a slave.
Character isn't something you were born with and can't change, like your fingerprints. It's something you weren't born with and must take responsibility for forming.
No one should desire to live in irregular circumstances; but if by chance a man falls into them, they test his character and show how much determination he is capable of.
Self-control is not repression, but the act of consciously and forcefully taking action without being led strictly by impulses and desires. This is what separates men from animals and men from boys. You take life by the horns instead of allowing life to rule over you.
Many words have been spoken by Plato, Zeno, Chrysippus, Posidonius, and by a whole host of equally excellent Stoics. I'll tell you how people can prove their words to be their own - by putting into practice what they've been preaching.
Self-control is one mark of a mature person; it applies to control of language, physical treatment of others, and the appetites of the body.
Humble in our aspirations. Gracious in our success. Resilient in our failures.
What other people think about me is not my business.
Strong spirits turn away from sensual pleasures just as seafarers avoid reefs.
It is not to your benefit to see and hear everything. Many injuries ought to pass over us; if you ignore them, you get no more injury from them.
Indifference to external events. And a commitment to justice in your own acts. Which means: thought and action resulting in the common good. What you were born to do.
It is not things, but opinions about things that have absolutely no existence, which have so deranged mankind!
There are two things you never want to pay any attention to - abuse and flattery. The first can't harm you and the second can't help you.
The secret to being likable is to not care if people like you.
Try to accept hard truths a little faster than other people do. It is a great advantage.
Men are disturbed not by the things which happen, but by the opinions about the things.
One resolution I have made, and try always to keep, is this: 'To rise above little things'.
Character is ethics in action.
Live truth instead of professing it.
The measure of a man's real character is what he would do if he knew he would never be found out.
The man who cannot believe in himself cannot believe in anything else. The basis of all integrity and character is whatever faith we have in our own integrity.
It's not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.
It is no dishonor to be in a minority in the cause of liberty and virtue.
The right way is not always the popular and easy way. Standing for right when it is unpopular is a true test of moral character.
Show me a man who has no enemies, and I'll show you a man who's never stood for shit.
Remember that reputation and integrity are your most valuable assets - and can be lost in a heartbeat.
Those who have principles have a north star. Those who don't are lost.
To build your body, you need to exercise. To build your mind, you need to read. To uplift your soul, you need to create. F*ck the people who say it's too much to ask of someone. Without ideals civilization wouldn't exist. No one is inspired by mediocrity.
Character is the intangible quality that allows others to trust you and you to trust yourself.
The greatest test isn't what you do when you are a victim. The greatest test is what you do when you have power.
A man must defend himself, if only to demonstrate his fitness to defend anything else.
Life becomes easy when you have principles on which you don't compromise.
Don't be impressed by money, job titles, big words. Be impressed by character, virtues, real world actions.
Great ambition is the passion of a great character. Those endowed with it may perform very good or very bad acts. All depends on the principles which direct them.
Indifference to external events. And a commitment to justice in your own acts.
Put more trust in nobility of character than in an oath.
The only real failure is abandoning your principles.
What does it mean to be samurai? To devote yourself utterly to a set of moral principles. To seek a stillness of your mind. And to master the way of the sword.
We must welcome changing times but cling to principles that never change.
To educate a person in the mind but not in morals is to educate a menace to society.
We must all face the choice between what is right and what is easy.
Character is much easier kept than recovered.
Reputation is character minus what you've been caught doing.
The weak protect their reputation. The confident build it. The wise laugh at it.
Be more concerned with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.
Character is like a tree and reputation like a shadow. The shadow is what we think of it; the tree is the real thing.
Never live your life seeking validation from anyone. That doesn't mean you shouldn't strive for an impeccable reputation. Validation is meaningless. Your reputation is priceless.
If you wish to be well spoken of, learn to speak well : and when you have learned to speak well of them, try to act well, and so you will reap the fruit of being well spoken of.
The gain acquired at the expense of reputation, should be counted a loss.
Your reputation is in the hands of others. That's what the reputation is. You can't control that. The only thing you can control is your character.
One's own reputation - why the fuss? One's own wealth - why the concern? I say, what you gain is more trouble than what you lose.
The way to gain a good reputation is to endeavor to be what you desire to appear.
If I take care of my character, my reputation will take care of itself.
What most counts is not merely to live, but to live right.
The greatest way to live with honor in this world is to be what we pretend to be.
In the arena of human life the honors and rewards fall to those who show their good qualities in action.
We become just by performing just actions, temperate by performing temperate actions, brave by performing brave actions.
You avoid mediocrity by ignoring what's unimportant. You become good by focusing on what you control.
A person with charisma can make a friend quickly. A person with character can keep a friend for a lifetime.
Human greatness does not lie in wealth or power, but in character and goodness. People are just people, and all people have faults and shortcomings, but all of us are born with a basic goodness.
A focused, consistent, positively motivated and disciplined character is essential to making your life story have a happy ending.
Generosity wins favor for every one, especially when it is accompanied by modesty.
It's time to stop labeling poor and rich people by their money. Instead a poor person is one who has a victim mentality and doesn't think they have control of their lives. A rich person is one who sees abundance in the world and focuses on bringing value to others.
It's not enough to be right. You also have to be kind.
Youth ends when egotism does; maturity begins when one lives for others.
If you will think about what you ought to do for other people, your character will take care of itself. Character is a by-product, and any man who devotes himself to its cultivation in his own case will become a selfish prig.
Fame is a vapor, popularity is an accident, riches take wings, those who cheer today may curse tomorrow and only one thing endures - character.